S.No. |
Option |
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1 |
a |
I have been romantic and imaginative |
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b |
I have been pragmatic and down to earth |
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2 |
a |
I have tended to take on confrontation |
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b |
I have tended to avoid confrontation |
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3 |
a |
I have typically been diplomatic, charming and ambitious |
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b |
I have typically been direct, formal and idealistic |
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4 |
a |
I have tended to be focused and intense |
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b |
I have tended to be spontaneous and fun-loving |
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5 |
a |
I have been a hospitable person and have enjoyed welcoming new friends into my life |
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b |
I have been a private person and have not mixed much with others |
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6 |
a |
Generally, it’s been easy to provoke me |
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b |
Generally, it’s been difficult to provoke me |
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7 |
a |
I have been more of a “street-smart” survivor |
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b |
I have been more of a “high-minded” idealist |
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8 |
a |
I have needed to show affection to people |
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b |
I have preferred to maintain a certain distance with people |
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9 |
a |
When presented with a new experience, I have usually asked myself if it would be useful to me |
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b |
When presented with a new experience, I have usually asked myself if it would be enjoyable |
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10 |
a |
I have tended to focus too much on myself |
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b |
I have tended to focus too much on others |
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11 |
a |
Others have depended on my insight and knowledge |
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b |
Others have depended on my strength and decisiveness |
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12 |
a |
I have come across as being too unsure of myself |
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b |
I have come across as being too sure of myself |
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13 |
a |
I have been more relationship-oriented than goal-oriented |
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b |
I have been more goal-oriented than relationship-oriented |
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14 |
a |
I have not been able to speak up for myself very well |
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b |
I have been outspoken – I have said what others wish they had the nerve to say |
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15 |
a |
It’s been difficult for me to stop considering alternatives and do something definite |
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b |
It’s been difficult for me to take it easy and be flexible |
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16 |
a |
I have tended to be hesitant and procastinating |
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b |
I have tended to be bold and domineering |
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17 |
a |
My reluctance to get too involved has gotten me in trouble with people |
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b |
My eagerness to have people depend on me has gotten me in trouble with them |
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18 |
a |
Usually, I have been able to put my feelings aside to get the job done |
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b |
Usually, I have needed to work through my feelings before I could act |
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19 |
a |
Generally, I have been methodical and cautious |
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b |
Generally, I have been adventurous and takeen risks |
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20 |
a |
I have tended to be a supportive, giving person who enjoys the company of others |
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b |
I have tended to be a serious, reserved person who likes discussing issues |
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21 |
a |
I have often felt the need to be a “pillar of strength” |
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b |
I have often felt the need to perform perfectly |
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22 |
a |
I have typically been interested in asking the tough questions and maintaining my indipendence |
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b |
I have typically been interested in maintaining my stability and peace of mind |
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23 |
a |
I have been a bit cynical and skeptical |
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b |
I have been a bit mushy and sentimental |
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24 |
a |
I have often worried that I’m missing out on something better |
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b |
I have often worried that if I let down my guard, someone will take advantage of me |
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25 |
a |
My habit of being “stand-offish” has annoyed people |
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b |
My habit of telling people what to do has annoyed people |
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26 |
a |
Usually, when troubles have gotten to me, I have been able to “tune them out” |
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b |
Usually, when troubles have gotten to me, I have treated myself to something I’ve enjoyed |
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27 |
a |
I have depended on my friends and they know that they can depend on me |
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b |
I have not depended on people I have done things on my own |
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28 |
a |
I have tended to be detached and preoccupied |
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b |
I have tended to be moody and self-absorbed |
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29 |
a |
I have liked to challenge people and “shake them up” |
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b |
I have liked to comfort people and calm them down |
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30 |
a |
I have generally been an outgoing, sociable person |
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b |
I have generally been an earnest, self-disciplined person |
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31 |
a |
I have usually been shy about showing my abilities |
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b |
I have usually liked to let people know what I can do well |
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32 |
a |
Pursuing my personal interests has been more important to me than having comfort and security |
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b |
Having comfort and security has been more important to me than pursuing my personal interests |
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33 |
a |
When I have had conflicts with others, I have tended to withdraw |
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b |
When I have had conflicts with others, I have rarely backed down |
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34 |
a |
I have given in too easily and let others push me around |
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b |
I have been too uncompromising and demanding with others |
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35 |
a |
I have been appreciated for my unsinkable spirit and resourcefulness |
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b |
I have been appreciated for my deep caring and personal warmth |
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36 |
a |
I have wanted to make a favorable impression on others |
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b |
I have cared little about making a favorable impression on others |
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37 |
a |
I have depended on my perseverance and common sense |
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b |
I have depended on my imagination and moments of inspiration |
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38 |
a |
Basically, I have been easygoing and agreeable |
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b |
Basically, I have been hard-driving and assertive |
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39 |
a |
I have worked hard to be accepted and well-liked |
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b |
Being accepted and well-liked has not been a priority for me |
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40 |
a |
In reaction to pressure from others, I have become more withdrawn |
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b |
In reaction to pressure from others, I have become more assertive |
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41 |
a |
People have been interested in me because I have been outgoing, engaging, and interested in them |
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b |
People have been interested in me because I’m quiet, unusual, and deep |
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42 |
a |
Duty and responsibility have been important values for me |
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b |
Harmony and acceptance have been important values for me |
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43 |
a |
I have tried to motivate people by making big plans and big promises |
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b |
I have tried to motivate people by pointing out the consequences of not following my advice |
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44 |
a |
I have seldom been emotionally demonstrative |
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b |
I have often been emotionally demonstrative |
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45 |
a |
Dealing with details has not been one of my strong suits |
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b |
I have excelled at dealing with details |
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46 |
a |
I have often emphasized how different I am from most people, especially my family |
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b |
I have often emphasized how much I have in common with people, especially my family |
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47 |
a |
When situations have gotten heated, I have tended to stay on the sidelines |
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b |
When situations have gotten heated, I have tended to get right in the middle of things |
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48 |
a |
I have stood by my friends, even when they have been wrong |
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b |
I have not wanted to compromise what is right, even for friendship |
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49 |
a |
I have been a well-meaning supporter |
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b |
I have been a highly-motivated go-getter |
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50 |
a |
When troubled, I have tended to brood about my problems |
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b |
When troubled, I have tended to find distractions for myself |
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51 |
a |
Generally, I have had strong conviction and a sense of how things should be |
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b |
Generally, I have had serious doubts and have questioned how things seemed to be |
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52 |
a |
I have created problems with others by being pessimistic and complaining |
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b |
I have created problems with others by being bossy and controlling |
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53 |
a |
I have tended to act on my feelings and let the “chips fall where they may” |
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b |
I have not tended to act on my feelings let they stir up more problems |
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54 |
a |
Being the center of attention has usually felt natural to me |
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b |
Being the center of attention has usually felt strange to me |
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55 |
a |
I have been careful, and tried to prepare for unforeseen problems |
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b |
I have been spontaneous, and have preferred to improvise as problems come up |
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56 |
a |
I have gotten angry when others have not shown enough appreciation for what I have done for them |
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b |
I have gotten angry when others have not listened to what I have told them |
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57 |
a |
Being independent and self-reliant has been important to me |
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b |
Being valued and admired has been important to me |
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58 |
a |
When I have debated with friends, I have tended to press my arguments forcefully |
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b |
When I have debated with friends, I have tended to let things go to prevent hard feelings |
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59 |
a |
I have often been possessive of loved ones – I have had trouble letting them be |
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b |
I have often “tested” loved ones to see if they were really there for me |
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60 |
a |
Organizing resources and making things happen has been one of my major strengths |
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b |
Coming up with new ideas and getting people excited about them has been one of my major strengths |
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61 |
a |
I have tended to be driven and very hard on myself |
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b |
I have tended to be too emotional and rather undisciplined |
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62 |
a |
I have tried to keep my life fast-paced, intense and exciting |
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b |
I have tried to keep my life regular, stable, and peaceful |
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63 |
a |
I have felt uncomfortable leaving past commitments, so I have had difficulty making major life-changes |
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b |
I have felt uncomfortable making long-term commitments, so I have made major life-changes fairly easily |
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64 |
a |
I have generally tended to dwell on my feelings and to hold onto them for a while |
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b |
I generally have tended to minimize my feelings and not pay very much attention to them |
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65 |
a |
I have provided many people with attention and nurturance |
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b |
I have provided many people with direction and motivation |
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66 |
a |
I have been a bit serious and strict with myself |
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b |
I have been a bit free-wheeling and permissive with myself |
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67 |
a |
I have been self-assertive and driven to excel |
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b |
I have been modest and happy to go at my own pace |
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68 |
a |
I have been proud of my clarity and objectivity |
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b |
I have been proud of my reliability and commitment |
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69 |
a |
I have spent a lot of time looking inward – understanding my feelings has been important to me |
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b |
I have not spent much time looking inward – getting things done has been important to me |
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70 |
a |
Generally, I have thought of myself as a sunny, casual person |
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b |
Generally, I have thought of myself as a serious, dignified person |
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71 |
a |
I have had an agile mind and boundless energy |
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b |
I have had a caring heart and deep dedication |
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72 |
a |
I have pursued activities that had a substantial potential for reward and personal recognition |
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b |
I have been willing to give up reward and personal recognition if it meant doing work I was really interested in |
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73 |
a |
Fulfilling social obligations has seldom been high on my agenda |
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b |
I have usually taken my social obligations very seriously |
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74 |
a |
In most situations, I have preferred to take the lead |
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b |
In most situations, I have preferred to let someone else take the lead |
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75 |
a |
Over the years, my values and lifestyle have changed several times |
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b |
Over the years, my values and lifestyle have stayed fairly consistent |
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76 |
a |
Typically, I have not had much self-discipline |
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b |
Typically, I have not had much connection with people |
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77 |
a |
I have often felt too emotionally vulnerable to be around others |
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b |
I have often felt that my sacrifices have been taken for granted |
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78 |
a |
I have a tendency to think of worst-case scenarios |
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b |
I have a tendency to think that everything will work out for the best |
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79 |
a |
People have trusted me because I am confident and can look out for them |
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b |
People have trusted me because I am fair and do what is right |
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80 |
a |
Often, I have been so involved in my own projects that I have become isolated from others |
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b |
Often, I have been so involved with others that I have neglected my own projects |
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81 |
a |
When meeting someone new, I have usually been poised and self-contained |
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b |
When meeting someone new, I have usually been chatty and entertaining |
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82 |
a |
Generally speaking, I have tended to be pessimistic |
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b |
Generally speaking, I have tended to be optimistic |
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83 |
a |
I have preferred to inhabit my own little world |
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b |
I have preferred to let the world know I am here |
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84 |
a |
I have often been troubled by nervousness, insecurity, and doubt |
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b |
I have often been troubled by anger, perfectionism, and impatience |
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85 |
a |
I realize that I have often been too personal and intimate |
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b |
I realize that I have often been to cool and aloof |
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86 |
a |
I have lost out because I have not felt up to taking opportunities |
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b |
I have lost out because I have pursued too many possibilities |
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87 |
a |
I have tended to take a long time to get into action |
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b |
I have tended to get into action too quickly |
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88 |
a |
I usually have had difficulty making decisions |
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b |
I seldom have had difficulty making decisions |
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89 |
a |
I have a tendency to come on a little too strong with people |
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b |
I have a tendency not to assert myself enough with people |
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90 |
a |
Generally, I have gone out of my way to meet people and make connections |
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b |
Generally, I have not gone out of my way to meet people and make connections |
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91 |
a |
When I have been unsure of what to do, I have often sought the advice of others |
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b |
When I have been unsure of what to do, I have often tried different things to see what works best for me |
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92 |
a |
I have worried that I would be left out of other’s activities |
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b |
I have worried that other’s activities would distract me from what I need to do |
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93 |
a |
Typically, when I have gotten angry, I have told people off |
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b |
Typically, when I have gotten angry, I have become distant |
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94 |
a |
I have tended to have trouble falling asleep |
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b |
I have tended to fall asleep easily |
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95 |
a |
I have often tried to figure out how I could get closer to others |
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b |
I have often tried to figure out what others want from me |
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96 |
a |
I have usually been measured, straight-talking, and deliberate |
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b |
I have usually been excitable, fast-talking, and witty |
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97 |
a |
Often, I have not spoken up when I have seen others making a mistake |
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b |
Often, I have helped others see that they are making a mistake |
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98 |
a |
During most of my life, I have been stormy person who has had many volatile feelings |
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b |
During most of my life, I have been a steady person in whom “still waters run deep” |
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99 |
a |
When I have disliked people, I have usually tried hard to stay cordial – despite my feelings |
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b |
When I have disliked people, I have usually let them know – one way or another |
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100 |
a |
Much of my difficulty with people has come from my touchiness and taking everything too personally |
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b |
Much of my difficulty with people has come from my not caring about social convention |
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101 |
a |
My approach has been to jump in and rescue people |
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b |
My approach has been to show people how to help themselves |
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102 |
a |
Generally, I have enjoyed “letting go” and pushing the limits |
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b |
Generally, I have not enjoyed losing control of myself very much |
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103 |
a |
I have been overly concerned with doing better than others |
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b |
I have been overly concerned with making things okay for others |
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104 |
a |
My thoughts have generally been speculative – involving my imagination and curiosity |
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b |
My thoughts have generally been practical – just trying to keep things going |
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105 |
a |
One of my main assets has been my ability to take charge of situation |
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b |
One of my main assets has been my ability to describe internal states |
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106 |
a |
I have pushed to get things done correctly, even if it made people uncomfortable |
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b |
I have not liked feeling pressured, so I have not liked pressuring anyone else |
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107 |
a |
I have often taken pride in how important I am in other’s lives |
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b |
I have often taken pride in my gusto and openness to new experiences |
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108 |
a |
I have perceived that I have come across to others as presentable, even admirable |
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b |
I have perceived that I come across to others as unusual, even odd |
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109 |
a |
I have mostly done what I had to do |
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b |
I have mostly done what I wanted to do |
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110 |
a |
I have usually enjoyed high-pressure, even difficult, situation |
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b |
I have usually disliked being in high-pressure, even difficult, situation |
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111 |
a |
I have been proud of my ability to be flexible – what’s appropriate or important often changes |
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b |
I have been proud of my ability to take stand – I have been firm about what I believe in |
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112 |
a |
My style has leaned towards spareness and austerity |
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b |
My style has leaned toward excess and over-doing things |
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113 |
a |
My own health and well-being have suffered because of my strong desire to help others |
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b |
My relationships have suffered because of my strong desired to attend to personal needs |
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114 |
a |
Generally speaking, I have been too open and naive |
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b |
Generally speaking, I have been too wary and guarded |
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115 |
a |
I have sometimes put people off by being too aggressive |
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b |
I have sometimes put people off by being too “up tight” |
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116 |
a |
Being of service and attending to the needs of others has been a priority for me |
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b |
Finding alternative ways of seeing and doing things has been a priority for me |
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117 |
a |
Typically, I have been even-tempered |
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b |
Typically, I have strong changes of mood |
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118 |
a |
I have frequently been drawn to situation that stir up deep, intense emotion |
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b |
I have frequently been drawn to situation that make me feel calm and at ease |
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119 |
a |
I have cared less about practical results than about pursuing my interests |
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b |
I have been practical and have expected my work to have concrete results |
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120 |
a |
I have had a deep need to belong |
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b |
I have had a deep need to feel balanced |
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121 |
a |
In the past, I have probably insisted in too much closeness in my friendships |
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b |
In the past, I have probably kept too much distance in my friendships |
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122 |
a |
I have had a tendency to keep thinking about things from my past |
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b |
I have had a tendency to keep anticipating things I’m going to do |
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123 |
a |
I have tended to see people as intrusive and demanding |
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b |
I have tended to see people as disorganized and irresponsible |
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124 |
a |
Generally, I have not had much confidence in myself |
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b |
Generally, I have had confidence in only myself |
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125 |
a |
I have probably been too passive and uninvolved |
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b |
I have probably been to manipulative and controlling |
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126 |
a |
I have frequently been stopped in my tracks by my self-doubt |
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b |
I have rarely let self-doubt stand in my way |
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127 |
a |
Given the choice between something familiar and something new, I have usually chosen something new |
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b |
I have generally chosen things I like, why be disappointed by something new I might not like? |
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128 |
a |
I have given a lot of physical contact to reassure others about how I feel about them |
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b |
I have generally felt that real love does not depend on physical contact |
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129 |
a |
When I have needed to confront someone, I have often been too harsh and direct |
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b |
When I have needed to confront someone, I have often “beaten around the bush” too much |
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130 |
a |
I have been attracted to subjects that others would probably find disturbing, even frightening |
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b |
I have preferred to spend my time on subjects that are not disturbing or frightening |
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131 |
a |
I have gotten into trouble with people by being too intrusive and interfering |
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b |
I have gotten into trouble with people by being too evasive and uncommunicative |
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132 |
a |
I have worried that I don’t have the resources to fulfill the responsibilities I have taken on |
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b |
I have worried that I don’t have the self-discipline to focus on what will really fulfill me |
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133 |
a |
Generally, I have been a highly intuitive, individualistic person |
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b |
Generally, I have been a highly organized, responsible person |
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134 |
a |
Overcoming inertia has been one of my main problems |
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b |
Being unable to slow down has been one of my main problems |
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135 |
a |
When I have felt insecure, I have reacted by becoming arrogant and dismissive |
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b |
When I have felt insecure, I have reacted by becoming argumentative and defensive |
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136 |
a |
I have generally been open-minded and willing to try new approaches |
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b |
I have generally been self-revealing and willing to share my feelings with others |
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137 |
a |
I have presented myself to others as tougher than I really am |
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b |
I have presented myself to others as more caring than I really am |
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138 |
a |
I usually have followed my conscience and reason |
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b |
I usually have followed my feelings and impulses |
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139 |
a |
Serious adversity has made me feel hardened and resolute |
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b |
Serious adversity has made me feel discouraged and resigned |
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140 |
a |
I usually have made sure that I have had some sort of “safety net” to fall back in to |
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b |
I usually have chosen to live on the edge and to depend on as little as possible |
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141 |
a |
I have had to be strong for others, so I haven’t had time to deal with my own feelings and fears |
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b |
I have had difficulty coping with my own feelings and fears, so it’s been difficult to be strong for others |
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142 |
a |
I have often wondered why people focus on the negative when there’s so much that’s wonderful about life |
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b |
I have often wondered why people are so happy when so much in life is messed up |
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143 |
a |
I have tried hard not to be seen as a selfish person |
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b |
I have tried hard not to be seen as a boring person |
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144 |
a |
I have avoided intimacy when I feared I would be overwhelmed by people’s needs and demands |
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b |
I have avoided intimacy when I feared I would not be able to live up to people’s expectations of me |